Violence and Hope

yesterday in class we were ever so briefly discussing premarital counseling. and i was really discouraged and mad. I felt like two of my professors said that premarital counseling basically isn't worth it. sorta a waste of time.
and i really didn't like that. Where's the hope? Where's the desire to help something become even better? i was discouraged that these two men that are passionate about marriage seemed to be so discouraged about helping a couple from the get go. Is it really only worth helping people when they are stuck and discouraged and feeling hopeless about their marriage? does it always have to be such a violent thing that leads people to counseling?
I'm aware that i don't have clear thoughts on therapy and counseling these days. I'm still establishing these. figuring them out. learning. but i am pretty sure that i believe that someone in an ok place can benefit from therapy. learn, work, grow. there is space for this in even healthy places. i refuse to believe that a person or a couple has to get to their lowest, darkest place before seeking help. Most people don't just go to the dentist when they have problems, right? a little bit of maintenance and protection can be a good thing.
I'm passionate about learning and growth. I'm passionate about healing and facing the hard places. and i hate seeing so much violence in our lives. mine. yours. the wounds. the pain. it shouldn't be. and it will be. redemption is only possible in the face of death, pain, sin, suffering. but does there have to be more violence?
I'm hopeful for Jeff and i. I'm hopeful for all marriages. there is hope! in the face of loneliness, despair, pain, violence. there is hope.